It is expected that a mother who has gone through the storms of life will lead her child to the right path so that she will not make the mistake she has made, especially in matters concerning marriage. This is what a mother told her daughter while she was searching for Husband.
“My daughter, looking for a husband is not the same thing as looking for a job. When you are looking for a job, you think of money and luxury, but when you are looking for a husband, you think of love, commitment and sacrifice.
Money is good but it is love and commitment that will bind your marriage. Do you know what? when your father approached me, I was 21,I still remembered that day. He didn’t have a car, he used to ride his mother’s bicycle.
I never used to do make up. We fell in love, do you see this house? I was there when your father built it, I used to come here everyday and supervise the workers. You see that old red car outside? we both contributed money to buy it, it was our first car. Your daddy will use it Monday to Friday and I will use it on weekends, except when one person need it more than the other. So, do not be afraid of starting small.
The most important thing is love, commitment and dedication. Behind every successful man is a woman and behind every unsuccessful man is a woman. Choose where you will belong.
My daughter, let a man see the real you and love the real you. When you pretend and look like what you are not and a man marries you, then one day when he begins to see the real you, that is where problem will start.
There are some kind of men you should avoid or be careful with. If you see a man always giving money to people and helping so many people but when you visit his home, his sister looks hungry and his mother badly dressed then be wise. Think about it. A man that can’t support his home is not trustworthy.
My daughter be careful of a man with too many secrets. Think twice about a man that keeps too much to himself. How can you live with a man you don’t know anything about? You have the right to know his fears and his dreams. Know what you are getting into. When I married your dad, I knew his plans and I played my role to help him and here we are.
Watch carefully the way a man treats his sisters and people around him, habits are very hard to change, if he is treating them bad then he may treat you bad. Pay every attention to what am about to tell you now, open your ears very well. If a man ever hits you when you are arguing, beat you up for any reason, do not bring such a man to introduce to me, do not even think of marrying him or else you may spend every day defending your life instead of living your life. There are some men that don’t give because they don’t have, also there are others that don’t give because they are stingy, think twice about such men.
Marry someone you are sure you can live with, not someone you are hoping he will change. Observe a kind of friend a man moves with, it has a lot to do with who he is.
My daughter I can’t choose a husband for you but I have given you advice that will guide you. I can’t wait for you to bring that man home and I can’t wait to dance with you on your wedding day.”